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one love: the basics of healthy conflicts & apologizing
When dealing with conflict in your relationships, here are a few important things to remember:
Intent vs Impact:
Often when someone says or does something to cause conflict, it wasn’t their intent to say something hurtful. Regardless, if “what you meant” is different from “what you said” it’s still important to apologize. A good analogy to remember: if you accidentally trip someone and it wasn’t your intention to do so, you still apologize for your actions.
The goal of a healthy conflict is not "winning":
While compromise may not always leave both people feeling that they got exactly what they wanted, agreement can be reached through compassionate negotiations of each other's wants and needs. And both parties should leave the exchange knowing that their feelings, opinions, and boundaries were heard and respected.
It may take time:
If you cannot seem to arrive at a compromise the first time you try to talk it through, don't worry. Take some time apart for everyone to process what has been said, sort through your feelings, and recharge before trying again. As tough as it can be, remember to take responsibility for your behavior when working to resolve a conflict.
Intent vs Impact:
Often when someone says or does something to cause conflict, it wasn’t their intent to say something hurtful. Regardless, if “what you meant” is different from “what you said” it’s still important to apologize. A good analogy to remember: if you accidentally trip someone and it wasn’t your intention to do so, you still apologize for your actions.
The goal of a healthy conflict is not "winning":
While compromise may not always leave both people feeling that they got exactly what they wanted, agreement can be reached through compassionate negotiations of each other's wants and needs. And both parties should leave the exchange knowing that their feelings, opinions, and boundaries were heard and respected.
It may take time:
If you cannot seem to arrive at a compromise the first time you try to talk it through, don't worry. Take some time apart for everyone to process what has been said, sort through your feelings, and recharge before trying again. As tough as it can be, remember to take responsibility for your behavior when working to resolve a conflict.
